Thursday, October 1, 2015

31 Days of Thoughts on Family



I have been invited to join a 31 day writing challenge for the month of October. For each day of this month, I will be writing on one topic. The intent of this challenge is to grow deeper into one particular topic, so I have chosen to write about family.

I'm planning to write about my family memories, what family means to me, and other related stuff! Let's start off with a story...

The month started off like any other. Flipping over the calendar, crossing out dates, and of course staying busy with work. Today, I had an all-day training class, so I stayed at work until 7pm and I remember leaving the office feeling exhausted. Right before I left work, I received a phone call from my paternal grandmother - we call her Ome.

Usually phone conversations with Ome last for at least 2 hours and most of the time is spent listening to her ramble on. But today was different.

She asked if I had received the wedding gift she sent me. It's a 12-piece set of fancy china, which is apparently a family heirloom. I did receive the china and it's beautiful; however, my small apartment doesn't have enough cabinet space to hold it all so it's still in the box.

She went on to remind me of the times we spent together when I was a little girl. Back when my cousins and siblings used to take trips down to Ome and Pop-Pop's house. Back when Pop-Pop was alive. Back when life was more simple.

Ome told me the story of how we used to go in her room, turn the lights off and 'write' on the ceiling with flashlights. We used to love doing that! I remember asking Pop-Pop (my grandfather) to come in the room so we could 'write' on him too. My siblings and I would laugh and laugh about that for hours!

This month, I hope to get back to simpler times like that. To remember the good times I've had with my family. And create new memories in the present time.

Here's to the journey!

-Bianca Lankford

Day 1: [this page] 31 Days of Thoughts on Family
Day 2: Continuous Prayer
Day 3: Friends are family, too!
Day 4: At the Redskins Game
Day 5: Strategic Plan for 2015
Day 6: Stroll Down Memory Lane
Day 7: #TeamNoKids
Day 8: #ThrowbackThursday Part 1
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Sunday, December 21, 2014

MYTH: Skinny People Don't Diet. [How I lost 5 lbs in 5 days]



It's almost January 1st, and you know what that means...time to make New Years Resolutions! For those of you who want to lose weight in the new year, I'm going to make this easy for you. FOLLOW THIS LIFESTYLE EATING PLAN. You don't need to join a gym to lose the weight. On this plan, you WILL lose weight...you WILL feel amazing... and your body WILL love you for it. Trust me. Here's my story...

About 8 months ago, a friend recommended that I read a book called "The Obesity Epidemic" by Zoe Harcombe. Thinking nothing of it, I found the book on Amazon and started reading. Let me tell you, this book has opened my eyes and changed the way I think about eating and food in general. So much so, in fact, that I've decided to share my experience with you.

Some stats for you: I am 25 years old, 5'9" tall and before doing this diet, I weighed about 149 pounds. (That's in the normal BMI range.) While following the Harcombe Diet, I lost 4.7 pounds in only 5 days!! How did I do it?

I stopped eating carbohydrates. And yes, sugar is a carb.

Yes, that's it. Instead of my usual sugary breakfast cereal, heaping plates of pasta and Starbucks coffees, I instead had food...REAL food. I switched to a low-carb, high fat diet. Unlike the typical American diet where you're restricted to a couple hundred calories, I could eat as much real food as I wanted! I was not hungry at all. And I ate bacon at almost every meal of the day.

Sounds crazy. How does it work?

The Harcombe Diet works in 3 phases:

  • Phase 1: No carbs, including sugar and honey. All fats are accepted so you can eat beef, chicken, fish, turkey, etc. No dairy, though. Sorry Starbucks lovers, but no caffeine during this phase either. But, you can have up to 50g of brown rice/quinoa/oats per day. Complete this phase to jump-start your system and identify any food allergies and addictions. This is a 5-day phase, but you can return to it at any time to lose more weight.
  • Phase 2: Alternate between carb meals and fat meals. (e.g. Fats for breakfast, Carbs for lunch, Fats for dinner). Cycling allows your body to get rid of the excess fat while eating 'fat' meals and burns off the carbs easily after eating 'carb' meals. Do this until you reach your goal weight.
  • Phase 3: Same as Phase 2 but allows for 'cheating', so you can have the occasional beer, piece of cake, slice of pizza, etc. Just don't overdo it! Keep doing Phase 3 for a complete lifestyle change.

Here's what I ate during one day in my 5 day jump start. [48% fat, 34% protein, 18% carbs]

Breakfast:
2 whole eggs (including yolks)
3 slices of turkey bacon
4 slices of pork bacon

Lunch:
2 cups of bagged salad (no dressing)
1/2 lb Bubba burger with spices (no bun!)

Snack:
15 baby carrots
1 cup of decaffeinated Blueberry herbal tea (no sugar or honey)

Dinner:
2 slices of pork bacon
1 cup of mixed veggies (carrots, corn, green beans, peas, Lima beans)
50g of brown rice
1/2 Grilled cube steak with spices

Dessert:
1 cup of decaffeinated Sleepytime herbal tea (no sugar or honey)

All of this food is 1,494 calories, which is right on-par with the 1,500 calories that I'm "supposed" to be eating while on a traditional diet. Counting calories won't help you lose weight. It's more about the quality of the food that you eat. Foods that contain preservatives, sugars, and other fillers are not good for your body. Your food should come in the rawest form possible, not from a box or a can. If the food has a commercial on TV, DON'T EAT IT!!!


Here are some of the things I've learned from the book...


  • Eating fat won't make you fat.
  • Sedentary behavior did not cause the obesity epidemic, and exercise will not cure it
  • Refined sugar contains NO vitamins or minerals. It just tastes good. Unless burned off, your body will convert it to fat.
  • Cholesterol is actually GOOD for you. Your body makes its own cholesterol every day. Also, there's no such thing as "good" or "bad" cholesterol. 
  • Cholesterol-lowering drugs like Lipitor actually stop your body from producing the cholesterol that it needs. Oh yeah, and Lipitor nets $12 BILLION in sales annually. No wonder the doctors keep prescribing it. This is a part of the scheme to keep people alive, yet feeling "sick". Medicate yourself by eating real food.
  • It is impossible to be healthy on a diet. Being healthy means eating healthy, and that requires a lifestyle change

Here's my advice: Try Phase 1 of the Harcombe diet. It's only 5 days. You've got nothing to lose but the weight. I'd love to hear about your results. Please email me at bbran07@gmail.com or post a comment below.

Wednesday, September 24, 2014

Tutorial: How to make the Best Bacon Ever.

Sorry for practically disappearing for all of September. To right the wrong of neglecting my blog, I've decided to post about BACON today. Yes, bacon. The tasty food that we all know and love.

I found the perfect way to make bacon. It's quick, easy, and has virtually zero clean-up afterwards. It's the oven-fry method.

What you'll need:

  • A cookie sheet
  • Aluminum foil
  • Bacon

First, you need to heat the oven to 400 degrees. Then, line the cookie sheet with the aluminum foil. (This is what makes the zero clean-up).


Then, add BACON!!




Cook in the oven for 11-13 minutes, checking the bacon every few minutes or so. No need to flip the bacon over while it's cooking. Just let it fry in its own fatty goodness.


When the bacon is cooked to your liking, take it out of the oven. (I like mine crispy and crunchy!)


Once the tray has cooled down, simply crumple up the aluminum foil and toss. Voila! Nearly zero clean-up.


Is your mouth watering yet? It should be. Now go out there and make yourself some delicious, tasty bacon!

Friday, August 29, 2014

Guest Blog Post: "A Little Wife's Happy Life"



I've been following this amazing blogger, Adrie, at A Little Wife's Happy Life. Her blog posts have been inspirational, thought-provoking and challenging. One of my favorites is the one where she encourages her readers create an intentional engagement, instead of simply planning for the wedding. Like me, she is a twenty-something Christian woman who has a deep love for sharing how Jesus has moved in her life. I feel so blessed to have met her!

Adrie is married, but she's got a lot of advice to give to single Christian people, so this month she's writing a new segment about singleness. I decided to write a guest blogger post for her. Make sure to check out Adrie's blog, and my guest feature: "Cherish The Single Life"

Peace and blessings!

Tuesday, August 5, 2014

Single or Married: There is no in-between


For those who know me personally, you may be shocked by the picture above, thinking: "Bianca is single? What happened? I thought she was engaged to James!" Yes, we are still happily engaged. But according to God, since I'm not married yet, I'm am single.

In the Bible, there isn't much talk about anything other than being single or married. (Yes, Matthew 1:18 speaks about Mary being engaged to Joseph, but Biblical engagements are not the same as what we have today.) My point is, there is no in-between. Either you're single or you're married. So forget all that nonsense about being dedicated to one another during dating and engagement... Compared to marriage, your "dedication" is nothing more than a pinky promise to stay together. Marriage is a much deeper commitment than you can ever fathom. Think about it! If you're dating someone and things go awry, you can walk away from the relationship without any real consequences. But if you're married, it's an entirely different story. The connection that you have with the person that you marry is the strongest bond of any human relationship--even more so than your relationships with your parents, best friend, siblings, etc. It's the highest level of commitment possible.

[God First. Then your spouse. Then you.]
Recently, James and I finished up the pre-marital class at our church. It was a whirlwind of information, but every tidbit was so beneficial. In one session, we learned that God's equation for marriage is 1+1=1. Two individuals join together to become one flesh. To build that oneness, each person must RECEIVE their spouse, LEAVE the care/responsibility of their parents, CLEAVE to their spouse and WEAVE their lives together. (Genesis 2: 23-25) In other words, marriage is not about love. It requires you to put your spouse ahead of yourself.

As Christians, we always need to consult God first with the things in our lives. Feeling grateful that He woke you up this morning? Praise Him. Feeling anxious about that big customer meeting at work? Pray to Him. Seeking God should be the first thing on your mind (Job 5: 8-9). You need to consult with God first. But when you get married, the hierarchy changes.

See, in a Biblical marriage, it goes:

  1. God
  2. Your spouse
  3. You
This means that every time you think about doing something/going somewhere/buying something, you've got to consult not one, but two people above you. Your spouse has priority over yourself.

Kinda crazy, huh? 

So, what can you do with all this information?

If you're single (not dating), you can practice a daily and fervent relationship with God by seeking Him, praying, and reading the Bible. Fall in love with Jesus first.
If you're currently dating someone, do the same thing but with your boyfriend/girlfriend. This is a great way for you two to bond together and to learn from each other. 
If you're engaged, actively try to put your future spouse ahead of you, in both your actions and your words. If you're not doing so already, make it a habit to pray together. The goal here is to build a foundation for a healthy, Godly marriage. 
And if you're already married, first of all congratulations! Hopefully this post resonates with you in your marriage, but if it doesn't, please don't fear. There is always room for improvement. You can make some baby steps to build the hierarchy of a Biblical marriage by praying with your spouse and asking God to heal any wounded pieces of your marriage. Also, you can work with your spouse to practice putting God first by reading devotions or the Bible every day.

I hope this was helpful for you.

In my next post I will talk about what you can do during your time of singleness. (Hint: It's not just dating.)

Tuesday, July 15, 2014

Racism.

A good friend of mine posted this article to Facebook today. The article lists quotes about RACISM for people who "don't see color". One quote from Nayyirah Waheed says "never trust anyone who says they do not see color. this means to them, you are invisible."

My favorite of them all is this quote from Scott Woods, an African-American poet, writer and musician. 

"The problem is that white people see racism as conscious hate, when racism is bigger than that. Racism is a complex system of social and political levers and pulleys set up generations ago to continue working on the behalf of whites at other people’s expense, whether whites know/like it or not. Racism is an insidious cultural disease. It is so insidious that it doesn’t care if you are a white person who likes black people; it’s still going to find a way to infect how you deal with people who don’t look like you. Yes, racism looks like hate, but hate is just one manifestation. Privilege is another. Access is another. Ignorance is another. Apathy is another. And so on. So while I agree with people who say no one is born racist, it remains a powerful system that we’re immediately born into. It’s like being born into air: you take it in as soon as you breathe. It’s not a cold that you can get over. There is no anti-racist certification class. It’s a set of socioeconomic traps and cultural values that are fired up every time we interact with the world. It is a thing you have to keep scooping out of the boat of your life to keep from drowning in it. I know it’s hard work, but it’s the price you pay for owning everything." 
- Scott Woods


Does this quote resonate with you at all? Do you feel that everyone is born racist, as the quote suggests?

Thursday, July 10, 2014

The Skimm

If you're anything like me, you like to be informed about current events, sports, and world news. I personally don't have time to peel through The Washington Post every morning or read CNN throughout the day. I don't even have time to watch the evening news anymore! I need my news in quick, short bursts.

Enter, The Skimm.

My friends Kurt and Michelle informed me about this daily email digest called The Skimm. It's very brief, and gives you a lot of information all in one email. The writers--called Skimmers-- read all of the news stories for you (so you don't have to), and they write up the stories in language that I can actually understand. Not only that, they also fill you in on important details of major news stories that you might have missed initially.


Each Skimm always starts with a "Quote of the Day" and ends with a "Thing to Know". Today, I learned about Game of Thrones, Lebron James, fighting in Israel, NSA intelligence leaks, German spies, and the economy. All within a few short paragraphs!

It's great for making small talk. For example: I don't like watching soccer at all. I think it's a horribly boring sport to watch and play. HOWEVER, I work in an office where there are a few soccer fans and they are avidly keeping up with the World Cup. Every morning, I get my daily dose of The Skimm to know which team beat who and that gives me something intelligent to say to my coworkers about the sport they love so much.

The Skimm has been beneficial for me. I feel so much more informed about the world around me.

So what are you waiting for? Get The Skimm today!